Comments on: The Handshake

By: Shelley Munro

Shelley Munro — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 05:03:01 +0000

Hi Barbara – we definitely don’t want squished fingers. I think some men worry about squeezing too hard hence the sometimes limp handshake.

By: Barbara Martin

Barbara Martin — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 23:16:20 +0000

A gentleman should take the ladies’ fingers midway and give a brief contact and then let go. Ladies to each other are the same. Nothing overtly firm, soft and brief.

Men can have their firm handshakes between each other.

By: Shelley Munro

Shelley Munro — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 21:55:25 +0000

Wylie – LOL – from you, I’ll accept a hug and definitely hug you back.

Leah – good point about the rings. They can really hurt.

Jane – exactly. To me it conveys rudeness, but I wonder what I’m saying to them. Scaring them off with self-confidence? I’m not sure.

Lucinda. Yes. Those limp handshakes are just yucky!

Gwen – Definitely a smile. I’ll admit I’m not a huge hugger – not unless I know the person well. Online romance friends slot into the hug section for me okay, but strangers – not so much.

By: Gwen Mitchell

Gwen Mitchell — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 21:43:41 +0000

A good handshake is a must-have in any profession, imo. It conveys confidence and gives a personal ‘human’ connection to a conversation. I like to shake hands, though I agree, sometimes women don’t think to do it – either because we’re huggers, or just stand-offish. And yes, some men are thrown off by a confident and assertive woman who equates herself as an equal, *snort*. I work in PR/Marketing and am constantly meeting people – both customers and colleagues. Handshaking comes second nature, but it is important to practice if you’re not used to it – it says a lot about you.

Oh, and *smile*. =D

By: Lucinda

Lucinda — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 21:19:10 +0000

Since I pastored a church for three years, I’ve shaken a lot of hands. I think a good, firm handshake is an important part of conveying how self-confident and self-assured we are.

By: Jane

Jane — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 20:45:36 +0000

I also thinks it’s weird that some women don’t shake hands. I hate it when people give weak, limp handshakes. I think it’s rude, it’s as if they’re saying “It’s not nice to meet you.”

By: Leah Braemel

Leah Braemel — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 14:04:56 +0000

I shudder at that four fingered handshake, especially when it’s from a guy. But I’ll take a handshake over a hug from a stranger. I am SO not a hugger. Friends – hug away – but if you don’t know me, it’s handshaking time. I used to have to teach how to shake hands when I taught at a business college – most people didn’t know how.

I’ve actually written a scene in my WIP where the hero judges someone by their handshake – says it’s like holding a dead fish. He wasn’t impressed, needless to say.

By the way, be careful of shaking hands too hard with women with large rings (it can hurt both of you), or older people who may have arthritis – which may be why you get the four finger handshake. But healthy people – yeah, put some wrist into it honey!

By: Wylie Kinson

Wylie Kinson — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 13:33:10 +0000

Bah, handshake!
I’m going to hug the stuffing out of you at National!!